Little fish online dating
Since pictures are so important to your online profile, here are a few tips: Your profile needs at least one picture to get you in the game.
You may be brilliant, handsome, wealthy and a great humanitarian, but you’re a non-starter without the visuals.
Here’s what I learned: If you’re looking for someone of similar interests and lifestyle, the more specific you can be upfront, the better. What was the last good book your read, or film you saw?
A common gripe shared by many women I met concerned the fellow who arrived at the meetup bearing little resemblance to the guy in the profile.
This advice applies to both sexes: Don’t post pictures of yourself from 10 years and/or 40 lbs. Don’t rave about your intense exercise regimen when you’re really a couch potato.
Just don’t turn your profile into Shakespearian-level prose that in no way reflects who you really are.
Here’s a surprise: Some women just look at the pictures!
Her response caught me completely off-guard: “You’re a really nice guy, but as a larger woman, I need a larger man.” While “larger” is always open to interpretation, from my perspective, she in no way fit the general definition of the term. She self-identified as such and envisioned herself with a man of more Falstaffian proportions, which I lack. Some of my cyberdates went nowhere, but a few women became trusted friends and confidants.
I’m no longer active on dating sites, but I don’t regret using them.
Internet dating puts all options on the table, and a growing number of sites cater to the more mature singles crowd.
My own encounters revolved around OK Cupid and Plenty of Fish, both of which are free dating sites.
Take it from someone whose new “friend” ran up the bar tab while keeping her purse hidden all night: Start with coffee. The sad fact is that some people are just looking for an excuse to go out with especially a naïve chump who will pick up the bill. Case in point: After connecting online and hitting it off over an extended phone conversation, I met a woman for a happy-hour drink.
She was an attractive redhead with a sparkling personality and a great smile.
Are you looking for an occasional dinner companion, a friends-with-benefits arrangement or a marriage candidate? The more clarity and candor you can muster (within the boundaries of good taste), the better.